Everything that you need to know about guy-on-guy anal sex

A sexual encounter between guys doesn’t always have to include anal sex, but it’s definitely up there on the menu of what’s likely to happen when guys get together, get naked, and explore physical intimacy.

Guy-on-guy anal sex isn’t something that’s generally covered in sex-ed classes in school, so we tend to learn by watching porn alongside a fair bit of trial and error.

You probably know all of this already, but – just in case – here’s some basic life lessons about anal sex that we’ve picked up over the years.

Cleanliness

As well as being a gateway to major pleasure, there’s no getting away from the fact that your anus is also the way that your faeces exit from your body.

That’s why you generally need to do a bit of planning ahead when it comes to getting fucked - you’re going to want to be ready, you’re going to want to be clean and confident.

Feeling clean and confident and ready for anal sex is going to be different for different guys. Some days, you might be more ready for action than others. It depends a bit on your digestive system, or what you’ve had to eat.

If you’re feeling healthy and you’ve had a bowel movement earlier in the day, then you shouldn’t need much more preparation than a good scrub in the shower. Use soap that’s not going to irritate you, and put your fingers to work with the warm water to ensure that you’re minty-fresh where it counts.

If you want a bit of extra help for your digestive system, fibre supplements are one way of keeping everything moving. However, it might take your body a few days to adjust to these, so don’t expect them to work instant magic.

You’ll hear a lot of talk about douching, and for some guys that’s an essential part of their getting-ready-to-be-fucked routine. Essentially, you’re squirting water into your butt to clean it out. There’s lots of online stores that offer portable douching products, but it takes a bit of practice to get comfortable navigating that procedure. Be gentle with yourself - douching can damage the sensitive tissues of your anal wall. You’ll want to douche well in advance of any action — at least an hour before, ideally. Having squirted water up into your butt, you want to make sure that it’s all out before anyone tries to fuck you.

If you’re not feeling clean and confident, there’s nothing to be embarrassed about. You just need to let your guy know that your ass isn’t on the menu. You’ve got plenty of other options available to you, so get to work and explore those.

Lube

If you want to start sticking things up your butt, you’re going to need some lubrication – everyone just refers to this as lube.

Most pharmacies and supermarkets will sell lube in some form, but your best bet is to go to a specialist retailer or online store and buy lube that’s designed for anal play.

There’s different types of lube out there, and it’s worth experimenting to find what works best for you. The main distinction is between a water-based lube or a silicone-based lube.

If you’re using condoms, you need a water-based lube. Silicone-based lube can deteriorate the condom.

Water-based lubes are generally easier to clean up, and will wash out of sheets and clothing without any drama.

However, you’ll probably get more pleasure out of a silicone-based lube. These tend to last longer, don’t need to be reapplied so much, and can give you a smoother sensation as you’re being fucked or enjoying some ass-play.

Trust

We’re at our most vulnerable – physically and emotionally – when we’re having sex. Anal sex requires trust because you’re going to enjoy it more if you’re both relaxed and feeling comfortable with what you’re doing.

If you’re feeling anxious, your body will instinctively tense up. This is why it’s generally best not to rush into anal sex – ease into it, build up to it, get comfortable with each other.

Pre-work

If you’re wanting anal sex – whether you’re getting fucked or doing the fucking – don’t just ram a cock in there and hope for the best. You’re going to get the best results if you put in some pre-work.

There’s lots of variations on this, but – in really basic terms – think of it as the top putting some preparation into the man-hole of the guy he’s about to fuck. You need to relax the bottom’s fuck-hole – you want to get it relaxed, loose, lubricated, and ready to take your cock.

There’s a number of ways you can go about this, and it’s generally best to do them all. Don’t be impatient – the more pre-work you put in, the more fun it’s going to be for both of you.

Rimming is a really good place to start. Put your mouth to work on his fuck-hole. Licking, spitting, chewing – really get your tongue in there and get everything as wet as possible. This is fun to do as a top, and super-pleasurable for the bottom.

Add your fingers into the mix. You can do this while you’re rimming or you might start to introduce some lube at this stage. Start with one finger, add a second, build to three. Again, your objective here is to relax the hole, loosen the hole, and get the hole lubed up and ready for action. All of this should be giving your bottom a lot of pleasure. If things are feeling a bit tight, add more lube and keep at it. Don’t rush things, take your time.

Depending on how you’re both feeling, you might want to move on to a toy or a dildo. As well as being fun for you both, a dildo is just going to help you on that journey towards being ready for some solid fucking. Being worked over by a dildo is going to help the bottom feel confident and ready to take things to the next level.

Penetration

Finally, it’s dick time. Add some more lube, find a position that works for both of you, and start slowly.

You’re probably going to feel a bit of initial discomfort, but it shouldn’t be painful. If you’re feeling pain when he’s pushing his cock into you, you need more pre-work. Don’t feel rushed – it’s okay to slow things down and put some more time into ensuring that you’re relaxed, loose, and ready.

To get started, the top should use some momentum in his hips to gradually work his cock in and to make sure that you’re both ready to take it up a gear.

If you’re the bottom and you haven’t been fucked by this top before, you may prefer to start out by positioning yourself on top of him and riding his cock – this gives you a bit more control as your body gets used to taking his cock inside you.

As the top begins to find his rhythm he should steadily build the power of his thrusts.

You don’t have to have sex like a porn-star, but try changing positions every now and then. Some angles will work better than others. Communicate. Take a break, get some water, get back to work. This doesn’t have to be a sprint.

If you’re the top and the bottom is letting you know what’s feeling good, then keep doing more of what’s feeling good and go to town – this is your reward for all of that pre-work.

Manage expectations

It’s a bit easier if you’re having sex within a relationship or it’s repeat business with a regular fuck-buddy as you get to know what works for you both and you get to know what you both like.

With a one-off hook-up, it’s not always as straightforward. Try and communicate as much as possible. If you’re the one getting fucked, let the top know if you want him to take it slow or go hard and rough. If you’re whoring yourself out as an eager fuck-hole ready to be used, different guys will have different interpretations of what that means. Communicate as much as you can to help ensure that everyone gets to enjoy a satisfying sexual encounter.

Set the mood

You’ll probably want to put some music on, and it’s often helpful to have some porn playing. Make sure that your music and porn choices work for the type of guy-on-guy encounter you’re looking for.

Clean-up

Sex often just happens spontaneously, so the clean-up is something that you'll need to navigate in the moment. But if you've got an opportunity to plan ahead a little, having a towel or a cum-rag of some sort within easy reach is always a good idea.

Positioning a towel on the bed or the sofa - or wherever the fucking is happening - can also help protect your furniture from lube and whatever else might be flying around.

You don't have to hit the shower immediately once the job is done - enjoy that afterglow for a bit - but at some point it's going to be a good idea to rinse off and soap away the sweat and the lube and the cum.