How to book an erotic gay massage
A step-by-step guide to your man-on-man experience.
An erotic gay massage is the ideal way to add some intimacy to your day, experience sensual arousal with a happy ending, or just reconnect with your body and relax.
But how do you find an erotic gay massage near you?
Where to look
When you search the internet, you're likely to find a number of independent operators who have their own websites, there may be some massage agencies, and then there's the big directory services such as RentMasseur.
A directory such as RentMasseur enables you to search for available masseurs by location. Each profile will show you a bio and photos and will also usually list prices and availability. You can then message the masseur directly to discuss a booking.
Red flags
As with anything in life, it's important to trust your instincts when booking an erotic or sensual massage.
Here are some potential red flags to keep an eye out for:
Lack of clarity
If you're finding it difficult to get your masseur to confirm the logistics of your session, that is a cause for concern.
Your masseur should be able to tell you the location of the massage, the time of the massage, and the cost of the massage.
Confusing photographs
Some masseurs may not show their face in the photos that are publicly available but if during the booking process they can't confirm to you what they look like then that is a cause for concern.
Most masseurs will have a set of photos that they provide to every client. If the masseur has provided you with face and body shots, it is annoying to ask them to provide additional photos - this indicates that you're probably just wasting their time.
Refusal to answer questions
If you have questions that you'd like to discuss before booking the massage, most masseurs will be happy to explain what you can expect to happen during the massage.
Continuing to ask questions when the essential information has been provided to you is annoying to the masseur and indicates that you're probably wasting their time.
No reviews
A site like RentMasseur enables clients to leave reviews for a masseur. Not every client leaves a review, but you would expect an experienced masseur to have a few reviews showing on their profile.
If there are no reviews, that suggests that they're either new to the site, new to being masseur, or some other explanation. It's reasonable to ask a masseur what the reason is that they don't have any reviews showing.
Things to avoid
If you want to stay on the good side of your masseur, try to avoid the following:
Don’t haggle
A massage service is not a market stall and you are not buying onions. You might be offered a discount under some circumstances, but haggling is frowned upon and feels disrespectful to the masseur.
Don’t be rude
Massage is a service industry - you can expect your masseur to be polite and professional. Just because you're paying for a service doesn't entitle you to disrespect the masseur - you should also be polite and respectful.
Don’t be crude
An erotic massage is an intimate and arousing service. However, you're not booking a sex-worker. While you may develop a rapport or an understanding with your masseur if you have repeat sessions with them, on your first booking you should avoid treating the massage as a hyper-sexual experience - that can be off-putting to the masseur.
Don’t be naive
The legality of paying someone for an erotic massage varies depending on where you are. Different countries have different laws - even within a country, the laws may vary from state to state. That may mean that communication about the massage needs to be a bit indirect or things may need to be ultra-discreet to ensure safety and privacy. Take your lead from the masseur - use the language and terminology that they use, if they suggest something then you should generally follow their suggestion.
Questions to ask
Here are some of the useful questions you might want to ask before booking a massage:
- How long does the massage take and how much does it cost in total?
- Do you accept card payments or is it cash only?
- What is included in the price and what happens during the massage?
- What happens if my circumstances change and I need to postpone or cancel the massage?
- Do you have somewhere I can shower, and will towels be available?
- Will the masseur be naked?
- Is mutual touching allowed?
Don’t just ask questions, tell the masseur anything that they may need to know beforehand. This is particularly important if you have any injuries or sensitivities that the masseur will need to navigate around.
How to choose an erotic masseur
Unless you're getting a recommendation from someone you trust, you're going to have to use your intuition when deciding which masseur to book for your sensual massage.
Some questions that might help guide your search include:
- How long have they been working in the massage industry?
- What reviews do they have?
- Do they respond to your messages in a timely manner? Are they easy to communicate with?
- Does their availability match with dates and times that are convenient for you?
- Where will the massage take place?
- Are you able to see photos of their face and body? Are the photos recent?
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