Navigating a naked house party

I'm a big fan of social naturism - any opportunity to get naked and hang out with a group of guys, I'm in.

Which is how I often find myself at naked house parties.

Naked house parties don't have to have a sexual element to them - you will quite frequently encounter naked house parties where it's a purely social event.

But when we're talking about an all-male event and everyone is naked, it doesn't make much sense - to me - to not acknowledge the sexual energy that's inevitably going to be in the room.

That doesn't mean that everything has to turn into a sex party, but any opportunity to access some touch and physical intimacy is something we can all benefit from.

Interested in hosting a naked house party? Here's some helpful hints and tips.

Visualise what the party is going to look like.

• Set your intention - is it a social party or a sex party or a blend of both?
• It might be helpful to give the event some kind of focus. Whether it's a game or an activity or a theme - having a bit of structure helps people navigate into the space and gives your guests permission to connect with each other in a low-stakes way.
• Where will the sex happen? Will there be a dedicated "play" space, or are you cool if people just get it on wherever they feel like it?

Curate your guest-list.

• Think about who you're going to invite.
• The smaller the group, the more important it is to curate your guest-list. You not only need a group of people who will get on but will also bring the same sort of sexual energy to the event - everyone needs to be kind of in the same head-space.
• Bigger events have more of a chance to balance themselves out.

Catering and logistics

• Put some thought into what people will be eating and drinking during the event.
• Do you need people to bring their own snacks and drinks?
• Where will people take their clothes off? Is there space to store everything?
• Do you need to pull the blinds to avoid any nosy neighbours?
• Getting the music and the lighting right is essential for creating the vibe of the event.

Clearly communicate your joining instructions

• The more information you can give your guests ahead of the event, the more likely it is that you'll get the kind of sexual energy that you're hoping for.
• Set a specific window of time for people to arrive - it's best to try and get everyone arriving about the same time so that everyone starts the event at the same point, and it means you can then relax and don't have to constantly monitor the door.

Lead by example

• As the host, you set the tone for the event.
• If you're relaxed and having fun, then your guests will be more relaxed and in the vibe.
• Introduce people to each other if they haven't met before.
• Be tactile with people - body language is a really powerful way to communicate your intentions.
• Suggest options to people. If you see a couple of guys getting on well, suggest that they head into the sex room and deepen their connection. Or if it's a "sex happens anywhere" kind of party, let them know that it's okay to get intimate with each other.
• If things seem to be a bit slow in getting started, make it happen - start stroking yourself, stroke someone else's boner, get on your knees and suck a dick.
• Try and make sure that everyone feels included.