Naked Men Talking: Wolf Hendrix
In the conversation, we talk advertising, nightlife in Berlin, and why he's ready to unleash his personality through his work.
For our podcast, Naked Men Talking, I caught up with Wolf Hendrix.
In the conversation, we talk advertising, nightlife in Berlin, and why he's ready to unleash his personality through his work.
You've talked about how you've made the move into content creation after a twenty year career in advertising. What does content creation give you that a career in advertising didn't?
Advertising was a career I rolled into because I was good at it and my friends were doing it.
I really went for it and I was successful in it. I enjoyed it for a long time, but I never loved it. It always felt like work.
I took a sabbatical and I traveled throughout Asia and Europe and really got to the point where I questioned every thing I did in my life and every opinion and influence that everybody has had on me.
I realised that advertising wasn't what I really wanted to do. I really wanted to do something with the one huge passion that I had, which was cock.
So, I had a few options. I could go into escort work, I could do behind the scenes work, or I could be in front of the camera.
From the moment I started filming, I loved it. I've never worked a day since. Every single day that I work in this profession, I enjoy myself.
I'm truly fulfilled in this job - it's not just the shooting of the porn, that's only a small part of what the job is, it's also everything around it, the marketing, the editing, the contacts you make.
The change from advertising to to porn was humongous. I went from work to living.
Where were you at with your sexual life that this career change was such an obvious move for you?
I have to give praise to the coach-slash-shrink that I was working with. After a lot of work, he said: What do you like most? And I said, I really, really like having sex. I know this is a thing that a lot of people like, but I live for it. I live for having sexual encounters and my body responds so much to sex.
Content creation allows me to be who I really am. I am a power bottom, and I can show this to the world - this daddy aggressive bottom that I am.
Were you stepping into a persona somehow? Was the character you're creating for these on screen performances a way of accessing a part of you that was there but just not really tapping into, or was it more just embracing who you really were?
Wolf is one hundred percent me, just exaggerated. I am like this, but Wolf is louder and more dominant and more in your face. I'm all those things, but he's just me amped up. He's more ready for the camera, he's more ready for his close-up.
Through your therapy journey, did you manage to unpack why it is that sex resonates with you so strongly?
One thing that I uncovered was that I started sex way too early.
Kids are supposed to play in the garden and play house and shoot arrows at each other and all that kid stuff. I did all of that stuff, but I was also already sexually active. I've never been abused, it was just me being a very open sensual sexual kid. I had sex with my best friend - we played with each other. I've had this very natural connection with my body since I was a child.
When I hit my teenage years - where your hormones start blasting - I was like, fuck, my body really is this thing that I can find so much pleasure in. I would jack off ten times a day. At least.
In my 20s, I finally found my gay liberation. I moved to Amsterdam and everything exploded - I found freedom in sex.
In my 30s, I discovered proper anal sex - when you fully relax, when you fully give into it. It was fireworks. Everything changed.
These days, you're based in Berlin and you're working behind the bar in Lab and Berghain. What's that experience like?
When I started filming, I needed a job on the side - I took a part-time job as a barman at Lab.
It's a gay sexual environment. It's a very, very free sexual environment which fits my personality and me 100%.
I'm not a nudist, but I'm always naked. Every Thursday, we have a naked party and the staff also work naked. Working at Lab has elevated the respect and love I have for my own body.
Working at Lab, I've been exposed to things that I'm not into. But I will never kink-shame - I will always treat you with respect.
What does intimacy look like for you these days?
When I started out, I had some friends that were in porn already. All of them, without exception, told me that your experience of sex is going to change - sex is going to become a commodity, it's going to become something professional to you, you lose the emotion and sensuality of it.
They all said to me, make sure that you either have really good sex with your partner, or you have fuck buddies that know what you're doing and accept it and can still make you feel the real meaning of sex.
I'm very, very fortunate to have fuck buddies that know what I do, and know why they're there - they take it quite seriously, which is really, really nice - they still make me have fireworks when they fuck me.
What's on your vision-board for the months ahead?
I've been doing this job for a little over two years now, and I'm not as successful as I would like to be. I'm very career driven, I'm very goal oriented. I'm not where I predicted myself to be, but I am doing really well.
What I've noticed - which I can't believe that I completely missed - is that Wolf Hendrix doesn't have a personality. People know I'm a dominant power bottom but nobody really knows who Wolf Hendrix is because Wolf Hendrix doesn't speak - he doesn't say anything. I'm planning to use Instagram as a tool for me to let Wolf speak. I'm going to be giving a little bit of the behind the scenes stuff and showing who Wolf is and what he does and what he likes and where he goes and what he does. I just ignored it completely. I don't know why.
It's a lot of work but I don't see it as work because I really, really do not work one second of my life anymore. I love Lab, and I love doing porn - I do not work anymore. My life is so full. I live now. I existed before.
Gareth Johnson