Naked Men Talking: Daddy Patrick
In the conversation, we talk hitting a cross-roads at the age of 60, navigating Daddy issues, and the human need to feel chosen.
For our podcast, Naked Men Talking, I caught up with Daddy Patrick from Ducati Studios.
In the conversation, we talk hitting a cross-roads at the age of 60, navigating Daddy issues, and the human need to feel chosen.
Your first release with Ducati Studios is Drifters. It's a production that you've written, directed, and starred in. What's the response been like so far?
It's been really great - it's been very rewarding.
We seeded it into the market in April and then launched on 20th May. Here we are, two months in, and the momentum has really built.
We spoke about Drifters when it was first released and you explained how the narrative of these characters is exploring the human need to be chosen. Why was it important for you to centre that experience in this production?
It's one thing when you see somebody and you're attracted to them and you want them - you find them sexually desirable, you want to go after them. It's another thing when you are looking at someone and you really want them to love you back.
It's not about conquest, it's really about wanting to find something in someone's affection - we find a a home in someone's affection.
That's what I mean by being chosen, is that the person that you're attracted to also is attracted to you in turn and they want to build something deeper with you.
As gay men, we grow up feeling that we're different. There's this feeling of not being lovable - that if you knew me you wouldn't love me - and that you have to work incredibly hard to be worthy of someone's love.
I wanted to build a story that is so deeply rooted in the gay male experience - a story that the audience would connect to, something that would touch them emotionally.
You threw yourself into the world of adult entertainment when you turned sixty. Why was that something that you wanted to explore?
It had been coming along for a while, but I was busy working as an executive for non-adult companies.
I had friends in the adult entertainment industry - guys like Joel Someone, who encouraged me to do it - but I was busy.
At sixty, I was at a bit of a crossroads. I didn't want to be on the shelf. I decided to give it a try.
It was fun - I quickly had a lot of momentum.
You embrace the daddy persona. Do you think that part of the appeal that you have to audiences is that you're helping them navigate their daddy issues?
For sure.
If you're a younger gay man, you're lucky to find mentors that are older than you, that are more experienced, that can help guide you on your way.
There's a lot of guys who want me to they basically take them - they want to be taken, they want to submit.
It's not like they're looking for their actual dad. They're looking for an older man that they can be vulnerable with, they want to experience an older man's love. Gay men need that feeling of being loved, of being chosen.
Given the journey you've been on and the work that you've been doing, are there any insights or lessons that you wished that you'd learned earlier - anything that you wish you could tell your younger-self?
When I was growing up, I wasn't sure what my destiny was. Eventually, I realised that I only have to worry about myself. I couldn't change everyone around me, but I could change me. I could get out there and prove what I can do and be the best person I can be.
That has been the secret to my success and it's the advice I would give to my younger-self because I wish I had learned that earlier - you don't have to worry about everything, just focus on yourself and the things that you are passionate about and the things that you love. Show up, be the best that you can be, and people will notice.
Who are the men in Drifters?
One of the strengths of this production is the quality of the ensemble cast that has been assembled. Not only are these guys big names in the world of gay porn, they’re also experienced performers who can embody a character and deliver a compelling performance.
The characters that Handsome encounters in each scene represent archetypal men that we all have to navigate in our search for intimacy.
Boss - The Sheriff (Sean Xavier):
Boss carries himself with the quiet authority of a man who doesn’t need to announce his power because everyone feels it when he arrives. He is the one you go to when you need someone to take charge, tell you what to do, and mean it. His command comes from sharp intelligence, steady instinct, and a watchful tenderness he reveals when a man has earned it.
Bro - The Bad Boy (Kane Fox):
Bro is the hot guy you want when you need to get fucked hard and fast by a man who has a big dick and a big appetite. Physically available and emotionally distant, he will be ready to go at a moment’s notice, top you, and then act like he forgot who you were once you leave the dimly lit places he inhabits such as truck stops, bus stations, and public restrooms.
Buddy - The Innocent (Serg Shepard):
Buddy has the energy of a kid-brother you can’t help but look out for. He’s eager to run with the big boys, always hovering at the edge of the group, not wanting to miss a joke, a drink, or the kind of late-night trouble that comes when the air gets warm and the rules get loose. He’s no simple tagalong, though. Buddy has his own wants, his own restless curiosity, and a quiet need for approval - from his friends and from the older men he meets along the road. Built like a wrestler, he loves to “wrastle” for dominance, pushing and shoving with a grin, even as some part of him is hoping a stronger man will finally put him on his back and keep him there.
Daddy - The Father Figure (Daddy Patrick):
Daddy is an older cowboy who’s still riding hard and still taking his pleasure without apology. He carries his years like a man who earned every one of them. His good looks haven’t faded - they’ve deepened, framed by a mustache and the kind of eyes that have seen too much and still find reasons to smile. And when he does smile - that boyish, wicked grin - it’s pure trouble, the kind that melts defenses and stirs up heat. His sexuality is all confidence and control. Daddy knows how to take, and he knows how to be taken - especially by a man strong enough to push back.
Dude - The Heart-throb (Derek Kage):
Dude is pure roadside fantasy - the boy you see on the side of the road, the one who looks back at you twice, the one you think about long after you’ve pulled away. Under that effortless charm lives something tender. He wants connection, real connection, even if he doesn’t know how to hold it yet. He flirts without trying, laughs without defenses, and blushes like he isn’t used to being adored even though people adore him constantly.
Fella - The Free Spirit (Max Adonis):
Fella is a misfit charmer, the trailer trash boy floats through life with a lazy grin, an easy laugh, and a way of getting along with just about anyone. He doesn’t ask much from life—just the freedom of the open road, enough cash for gas and rolling papers, and the small pleasures that drift his way. He lives light, chasing parties, sunsets, and backroad motels, happy to trade a shared smoke and a soft bed for company. Fella’s especially drawn to older men with a steady hand and a low voice, the kind of “daddy” who can show him a good time while the haze from his last bong still hangs in the air.
Handsome - The Wounded Beauty (Ryan Orion):
Handsome is a good-looking boy from the wrong side of the tracks - all boyish charm and that sweet, mischievous grin he uses like a key to any locked door. He drifts from town to town, always chasing the next distraction, the next warm body, anything that helps him forget where he came from. His past is a trail of dead-end jobs and bad decisions. Under the swagger, he’s a man who wants to be claimed and handled - he’s drawn to men who can take charge and make him feel wanted.
Rodeo - The Travelling Showman (Jonah Wheeler):
Rodeo is part barber, part card-sharp, part travelling musician. He moves through the desert like every roadside is a stage waiting for him to take it. With a straight razor in one hand, a deck of cards in the other, and an accordion tune ready to spill out of him, Rodeo knows how to hold attention and bend it in his favour. He can clean a man up, charm him with a song, then make him question whether the card he picked was ever really in the deck.
Stud - The Fixer (Brian Bonds):
Stud is the man you call when something breaks, whether it’s a stalled Cadillac, a coughing RV, or a heart that’s been dragged too far down the road. Sexually, he’s a hungry bottom who likes offering his body to men who know what to do with it. He finds power in surrender, pleasure in being handled, and intimacy in letting another man take the wheel for a while. He’s got grease on his hands, heat in his eyes, and a body built for the road.
Wiseguy - The City-slicker (Joel Someone):
Wiseguy is the kind of man who can talk his way into a motel room, out of a bad situation, and into your head all in the same breath. He’s the comedian of the crew, the pressure valve when the heat rises. Any verbal challenge gets met, matched, and topped, fast.
Gareth Johnson