What is an incest kink?
Turning the spotlight on the taboo.
When we think about fantasies that turn us on and push our buttons, vanilla stuff is cool but it's generally the fantasies at the more taboo end of things that really get us rock hard.
Why is that? There's probably a couple of factors at play. There's something about the forbidden. It must be some kind of primal instinct - if someone tells us not to do something, it immediately becomes a temptation impossible to resist.
Another factor is possibly that - for most of us - porn is readily available. You want to watch gay porn? There's very few barriers to you watching a lot of gay porn. But that abundance of porn can lead to a bit of desensitisation. In order to fuel our fantasies, we find ourselves needing to see something new, to feel something new - this can lead us to exploring porn rabbit-holes that we might not expect to be drawn to. Thinking with your dick can take you to some dark places.
While the post-nut clarity might leave you questioning your choices and wiping your search history, it's not something that we need to overthink or feel any guilt or regret about. We're humans with complex sexual needs. Desire and arousal are an essential part of who we are as men.
It's also important to remember that fantasy is not the same as reality. Just because you blew your load as your imagination took you into some twisted scenarios doesn't in any way mean that it's something that you want to explore in real life.
Which brings us to incest.
What is incest?
In simple terms, incest is sexual activity with a member of your immediate family.
Historically, laws around incest were centred around marriage. If you were too closely related to someone to marry them, then you shouldn't be having sex with them.
More recently, the prohibition on incest is more focused on the protection of children. These laws describe incest as familial sexual abuse and look at the family in the broad sense - protecting children from abuse from a parent (including adoptive or foster parents), grandparents, sibling, half-sibling, or uncle.
In most parts of the world, incest is illegal and very much socially taboo.
Why is incest a turn-on?
Anything that involves moral transgression in a sexual context allows us to explore darker desires and fantasies that we rarely face up to but undeniably push our buttons.
Incest involves men grappling with their desires, trying to navigate societal expectations and resist moral transgression. There's an inherent dramatic tension as the dynamics of the fantasy are established.
There's possibly also some connection to the timeless appeal of intergenerational encounters between men. Whether it's a manifestation of "Daddy Issues" or a power-play of some kind, throughout history there has been an attraction of younger guys to older guys, and vice-versa.
The incest fantasy can range from brother/brother, to uncle/nephew, to dad/son and all the other variations that you can think of. Twincest is particularly popular. Related fantasies are intergenerational encounters, and also size-difference encounters.
Incest fantasies and role-plays are widely explored in erotic fiction but also increasingly in studio porn and fan-subscription content.
Incest in popular culture
The White Lotus is a television series that has consistently pushed the boundaries as to how gay sex is portrayed on screen.
Season 3 of the series gave us the relationship between brothers Saxon (Patrick Schwarzenegger) and Lochlan (Sam Nivola) - with some quality nudity and a brother-on-brother kiss.
From Beginning To End [Do Começo ao Fim] is another solid example of brother-on-brother sexual connection.
Francisco (João Gabriel Vasconcellos) and his younger half-brother Thomás (Rafael Cardoso) have a close relationship growing up, but this spills over into a sexual relationship and a deep emotional connection as they grow older.
Gareth Johnson
How do I explore an incest kink?
If you're a bit incest-curious and want to add a bit of taboo heat into your fap fantasies, the work of Carnal Media is a good starting point. Carnal is a gay porn studio that leans into a range of kinks - they've got a whole line of content focused on what they describe as Gaycest.
In terms of erotic fiction, Nifty is an online archive that has an entire section devoted to incest. AO3 is a platform for erotic fiction - it includes stories that are tagged with an incest label.
I've written a bit of erotic fiction that explores incest fantasies - an example is The Neighbour Next Door.
Gareth Johnson
